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  • The True Meaning of Following Your Dreams

    A photo that was taken 2 years ago.

    Back in Laos, while some Canadians was sipping Lao beer, I said I wanted to become a photographer.

    What happened?

    Fast forward five months: still unemployed, but I recently volunteered as a videographer for an all-day beach event. Even though I didn’t get paid, I loved every second of it. When I excitedly shared the experience with my mum, her response was classic:

    I shared my experiences with my mum, telling her how excited I was. Her response was,

    “When can you turn these skills into money?”, she said.

    The rationale behind it

    I wasn’t surprised by her dispiriting answer. I wasn’t surprised by her dispiriting answer, but it got me thinking. My logic is simple: once you monetize your interest, the dynamic changes.

    Plus, as a novice, I know I need more “miles” behind the lens to build my credibility.

    To quiet her doubts, I told her I would need extra money to attend professional photography training and buy some professional but expensive equipment. Once she heard that, she shut up😅.

    A small Discovery

    After this small incident, I also reflected on the importance of making money with my interest. And I discovered a strange logic.

    If my dream is to be a photographer, what is the actual “dream”? Is it the reward (money/fame), or the action itself?

    After chewing on this for a day, I knew the answer – what truly matters to me is the activity itself, not the reward💰. Being able to help people take photos and record videos are enough to make me happy, and money does not matter. Appreciation from others can become a motivation, but the process itself is the core of my dream.

    Shift in attitude

    This shift has changed how I view all my ambitions. I used to want to be a writer to earn a living, but now I realize I just love expressing ideas and emotions through words. I don’t need the awards or the validation.

    I call this true love❤️.

    PS: I will make money from something that is not my interest, hahaha.

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  • Day 5: Overcoming External Opinions

    Live for yourself, not others

    The souvenir from my relative who returned from the UK

    Just a short update on Day 5.

    Today’s event

    I met my relatives and had lunch with them. Unsurprisingly, the age gap between us made me found the conversation very boring and lifeless. All they talked about was body check and diet advice.

    However, a moment also made me realize that I am not confident enough.

    When one of them asked if I would get a master’s degree, I said no. He then lower his voice and said,

    ” You are not good at studying, so it is of no use to pursue a master’s degree.”

    His words sounded unpleasant in my ears. I knew it was because I had grown up in a very toxic family environment that never allowed me to focus on my studies.

    My family members struggle with severe mental illness. They often couldn’t control their temper and fought constantly. Their toxic behavior suffocated me emotionally, leaving me drained and unable to concentrate.

    (Since I was living in a chaotic household, I would say that if I care about my health and well-being, I can guarantee that I wouldn’t be able to get my degree.)

    Despite that, I didn’t fight back or tried to convince him. I understood that it was meaningless to explain to others the difficulties you are facing in life.

    I felt like other people didn’t understand my situation, but sometimes you can’t expect everyone will know your backstory. This is a topic I have to work on –

    How not to be affected by other people.

    I believe that one day I can tackle this issue and live freely.

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