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  • The True Meaning of Following Your Dreams

    A photo that was taken 2 years ago.

    Back in Laos, while some Canadians was sipping Lao beer, I said I wanted to become a photographer.

    What happened?

    Fast forward five months: still unemployed, but I recently volunteered as a videographer for an all-day beach event. Even though I didn’t get paid, I loved every second of it. When I excitedly shared the experience with my mum, her response was classic:

    I shared my experiences with my mum, telling her how excited I was. Her response was,

    “When can you turn these skills into money?”, she said.

    The rationale behind it

    I wasn’t surprised by her dispiriting answer. I wasn’t surprised by her dispiriting answer, but it got me thinking. My logic is simple: once you monetize your interest, the dynamic changes.

    Plus, as a novice, I know I need more “miles” behind the lens to build my credibility.

    To quiet her doubts, I told her I would need extra money to attend professional photography training and buy some professional but expensive equipment. Once she heard that, she shut up😅.

    A small Discovery

    After this small incident, I also reflected on the importance of making money with my interest. And I discovered a strange logic.

    If my dream is to be a photographer, what is the actual “dream”? Is it the reward (money/fame), or the action itself?

    After chewing on this for a day, I knew the answer – what truly matters to me is the activity itself, not the reward💰. Being able to help people take photos and record videos are enough to make me happy, and money does not matter. Appreciation from others can become a motivation, but the process itself is the core of my dream.

    Shift in attitude

    This shift has changed how I view all my ambitions. I used to want to be a writer to earn a living, but now I realize I just love expressing ideas and emotions through words. I don’t need the awards or the validation.

    I call this true love❤️.

    PS: I will make money from something that is not my interest, hahaha.

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  • The Great Lie: Why Work Experience Won’t Save You from a Life Crisis

    While I am practicing to be more self-aware of my emotions, I reflected on the events in my life, and I discovered a lie I’ve heard for a long time.

    For a long time, we’ve been told a simple lie:

    The Academia Path📚: Slows down your development and makes you prone to a life crisis.

    The Practical Path (Work)🗃: Accelerates your socialization and helps you find your “direction.”

    That is to say if you choose work, you are “safe” from the existential dread that scholars face. But this is a trap.

    Two weeks ago, I spoke with an alumna of my UNV program.Two weeks ago, I talked to an alumnus of my UNV🇺🇳 program in Hong Kong.

    Despite our conversation lasted for 50 minutes only, her honest sharing was enough stress me out.

    Our only intersection was the program I joined. Unlike me, she was graduated from a competitive university and had been working for UNFPA for a year. Also, she won the Chevening scholarship. And her secondary school gives her the greatest networking opportunities in Hong Kong.

    Now, at 31, she’s a senior officer at an INGO.

    During our conversation, although she didn’t always express herself clearly, her answers were very honest.

    “Do you like your job?” I asked.

    “I just do the work,” she said.

    Then I asked another question.

    “If you were financially independent, would you stay in your current position? “

    “How can I achieve financial independence? I have to work for so many years! I can’t achieve financial freedom. If I am financially independent, I can do things I want. “

    “Have you found your direction→?”, I asked.

    When I asked about her direction, she said, “I’m still exploring. I’m not that old!”

    I had to laugh. 😂

    Even though I am not sure whether I will meet her again, she gave me a valuable lesson💎.

    I don’t want to play her game at her age…A life without passion and financial stability. If I don’t want to play the same game, I have to make different decisions.

    At the same time, she also proves that degrees from great schools and brilliant working experience can’t guarantee a satisfying life.

    When I shared this story with another friend, who is the same age of the alumna, she said she feels the same. But she just got her PHD.

    It is clear that a PhD and work experience cannot give you a sense of stability in life. And if there is no stability in life, then why do we need to worry about it?

    Feel free to drop your comment below to share your thoughts and opinions!😄

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  • Why I didn’t spill the beans? The myth behind cheating

    This is my personal reflection—no judgment on others’ choices

    Cheating is either nonexistent or everywhere—there’s no in-between.

    by unknown

    Cheating is like pushing down a domino.

    Growing up in a traditional Hong Kong family, no one had ever taught me what was “Cheating”. I learned this term from the newspaper, local soap drama, and stories told by the adults.

    Since I was in surrounded by adults who emphasized the importance of morality, long ago I had been educated that “cheating” was an unforgivable sin.

    Whenever my mum saw the characters in the soap drama cheating on his or her partners, she would say,

    “OMG! They are cheating. He is a bad guy!”

    And it explained why my attitude towards cheaters are quite negative.

    Confusion in disguise

    Despite I had never approved this behavior, a question had lingered in my mind for a long time:

    Why won’t the cheater’s friend or family members inform their partners the truth? Why?

    When I was reading the news or stories, I saw people was worrying that destroying their relationship with their friends, or it can fire back.

    I was very naive 👧🏻. So I thought,

    “In the future, if I know anyone cheated on his or her partner, I must tell that person the truth. It’s so easy. Just spill the beans and everything will be fine.”

    The first moment of change

    After graduating from my secondary school, I entered a university where most students were relatively innocent and simple-minded. Most students don’t care about future, money or frame.

    They love playing mobile and computer games only. And I rarely heard about anyone cheating or having a drama over relationships.

    Things changed until I met my former friend, who was pursuing her second degree.

    The victim of victim

    On one occasion she complained about being mistreated by her boyfriend. Then she said,

    “Actually, I have feelings towards my classmate. He is a hot dude. Compared with my boyfriend, he is taller and knows how to flirt with girls. But he is a playboy.”

    I was silent at the moment. But I was overwhelmed with a mixed feelings. As a woman, I had a positive attitude towards fellow women. I thought every woman will be loyal to their partner like what I saw in the past.

    Before that, she told me that her boyfriend pay for her rent and helped her to do the housework. I couldn’t believe that she would betray her boyfriend. Although the dynamic of their relationship was very unhealthy, cheating was not an excuse.

    Ironically, although I found her behavior disappointing, I didn’t become the justice warrior I yearned for when I was young. Even when I encountered the same incident afterwards, I found myself have become the person in the “not my backyard” meme.

    The rational behind my impassiveness

    Sometimes I reflect on the rationale behind my action, and I concluded three reasons.

    1. Fear of trouble/backlash
    2. Disinterest in their partners
    3. Risk to own relationships/reputation

    Reason one is very simple. If I tell him or her the truth, it could get me into trouble very easily. Even though that person is my friend, I can’t predict the consequences. Life is easy during good times. Yet, if it is related to personal interest, that’s a different story.

    For number 2, it is more like a personal preference. I don’t have enough stamina to deal with my daily tasks already, why would I care about my friend’s partners? They are their partners, not mine.

    This is the most selfish reason. It started with human nature. Even if I successfully reported the incident to the victim, they may think I am lying. If they don’t believe in it, they can become mad and you and your reputation may get affected.

    Exceptional case

    Unless the victim is my friend and he or she is going to marry the cheater(s).

    Typing this blog post makes me realize how rational and practical I am. It also make me realize that being a good person is very difficult in the reality. Having the will to save other people is good, but it is an art that requires wisdom and understanding towards human nature.

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  • The good side of unemployment

    Returning from Lao, I became unemployed. However, it gave me a chance to take a good rest and reflect on things that happened in my life.

    Three days ago, while watching an episode of A Bit Personal with Jodi Shelton—the interview with Jensen Huang—I suddenly found his words hitting home:

    “I would relive in our day… And the reason for that is because I thought that our 20s was happier than these 20s.. and um… I think everyone deserves some time to be oblivious and not to have… not to wear all of the world’s problems on day one. I just don’t think it is necessary.

    “They’re cynical because they just see too much stuff…”

    Source: Youtube

    What it means to be a GenZ

    For anyone who doesn’t know me: I’m from Hong Kong 🇭🇰, a tiny but intense city.

    Before returning from Laos, I assumed my six-month UN 🇺🇳 experience would open doors here. Reality hit hard—I got zero responses from the job market.

    Seeing the situation, I changed my strategy. reached out on LinkedIn to people in specific roles at target companies, asking for advice or inspiration.

    Messages sent. Zero replies. 🤪

    Change in mindset

    Finally, I understood that I have already done everything I could have done to get a job. Although blaming the environment seemed to be an excuse, the environment and the resources I have really limited my options and opportunities.

    I checked the data: Hong Kong’s youth unemployment rate (ages 15-29) has hovered around 6-11% in recent periods (e.g., around 6.2% overall for 15-29 in 2024, with seasonal fluctuations into 2025-2026 showing similar challenges for young job seekers per Census and Statistics Department reports). Knowing it’s not just me helps me stay calm—the external environment is genuinely tough.

    Knowing it wasn’t my fault, I adopted another mindset: Try my best and let go of my expectation. I felt like worrying about my future and career prospect was too much for me.

    Changes in action

    I will still apply to 1-2 jobs every day, but after that, I would rest and do anything I love. I no longer care about when can I get a job or move out, given that I had saved enough money to survive for at least 2-3 months without a job.

    For the first time in my life, I have the chance to learn how to live with the flow and enjoy my life.

    What changed my mind?

    I finally realized that many things are beyond my control after living and working in Laos for six months. I tried extremely hard to a point that I got sick for many times. Unfortunately, things still didn’t work out. At last, I realized that not everything in life is under my control. 😚

    So, let’s chill and live with the flow.

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  • What you need is self-love, not romantic love

    The sun set in Laos

    This is my 51 st day in Laos, and I finally realized the biggest I have to learn in my life.

    When I woke up, the first idea popped up in my mind wasn’t about work or the sorrow of leaving my comfortable bed.


    I need self-love and self-respect, not romantic love💗.

    I need self-love and self-respect, not romantic love💗.

    I need self-love and self-respect, not romantic love💓.

    This sentence played for three times in my mind. Although my mind had just began its morning routine, it was chewing on this simple yet important sentence. It was an epiphany🤯!!!

    I suddenly realized the problems and troubles that happened to me was caused by the lack of self-love and self-respect. Even though I am living in a bigger house and have more freedom in my life, I haven’t fully got rid of my unhealthy habit. For instance, when I was sick, I didn’t listen to my body and went to work with horrible stomachache😫, headaches🥶 and diarrhea🤢.

    Ironically, even though I tried very hard to suppress the pain, I surreandered to my body before the end of the working hour. I left the office at 3pm and went on enjoying my “diarrhea journey🌊🌊🌊” in my cozy apartment.

    A few days later, I recovered, but I was exhausted. And I encountered some unpleasant things that tore my heart apart (When I figured out my crush lied to me about being single). However, after all these events, I learned the biggest lesson for me is how to listen to the voice in my heart and follow my intuition. If I know how to respect my feelings and ego, I probably wouldn’t fall in love with the wrong person again.

    At this moment I may not be able to treat myself as good as possible. But I can foresee that I will be the person that treat myself the best in this world🌍.

    So how is your thought on self-love? Share you opinions!😀

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