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  • Day 30: Change of directions

    I am back.

    How it feels to find a satisfying job in Hong Kong

    Latest Update:

    • Recovering from wisdom teeth removal surgery
    • Caught a cold
    • Attended three interviews and completed two written tests (one was super long)
    • Met up with a friend
    • Edited a short video

    Although I’m still waiting for feedback from the hiring managers, I’ve realized that reality is forcing me to change my plans.

    Originally, I was mainly targeting community-based organizations. However, some of the recent interview experiences made me reconsider. The first one went okay, even though the written test was quite complicated. But the second and third ones didn’t go well at all.

    Both hiring managers appreciated my skill sets. However, after watching the video I made and edited myself, one of them asked:

    “Do you appreciate yourself for the fact that you survived alone in Laos for six months as the only person in the department?”

    “You have very strong self-learning skills. But will you be bored by admin tasks? Like filling in Excel forms with numbers all day…”

    “No problem,” I replied.

    Towards the end of the interview, she looked at my expected salary and said, “You wrote HK$20,000 (about 2,553 USD). Is this negotiable?”

    When I shared the questions from the third interview with my friend, she couldn’t stop laughing. For example:

    “You are accompanying a group of wheelchair-bound members to a restaurant. If the escalator was out of service that day, what would you do?”

    “I will enter the mall or restaurant from another entrance.”

    “What if they don’t have a second entrance?”

    “Then I’ll just move to another restaurant.”

    Another question was: “If a member complained that someone else ate three shrimps from the basin cuisine, what would you do?”

    My answer: “I would tell them there’s abalone and other more expensive food available.”

    The interviewers burst out laughing. The whole interview felt quite strange. The written test was even more ridiculous — I had to draft a notice informing the center that it would be closed due to urgent electrical maintenance.

    After these experiences, I’ve decided to pause applying for community-based roles for now.

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  • Day 22: Counseling improved my life

    My new crush made me realize that I didn’t waste the money on counseling.

    Latest Update:

    Finally I went to see the doctor. I got some medicine. Apart from that, I also prepared for tomorrow’s interview. Hope I can get the offer.

    Good news

    Actually, after talking to my new crush yesterday, I gradually realized the psychotherapy worked effectively. I can say that the therapy was way more effective than I expected. However, since I don’t want people around me to know my secret, I removed my personal photos on this website.

    Here is the full-story.

    In the past, even on the first or second meeting with someone new, I would stupidly pour out my trauma and list my achievements, trying to prove my worth. I did them to prove my self-value. Clearly, this is a lack of personal boundary.

    My behavior was very cringe🤦‍♀️.

    Moment of change

    Everything began with my disastrous final year research project.

    I nearly couldn’t submit the project on time due to constant stomach pain, procrastination, and insomnia. I knew the reason very clearly. And the symptoms were too serious that they forced me to take the critical move.

    Things truly started changing until I began to see my counselor in April 2025. Unlike the school counselor, she is an expert in somatic therapy. She uses different therapies to help me releasing the traumatic memories stored in my mind and body. At the same time, she pointed out that I have problems with self-value.

    And she was right.

    After a full year of consistent, rigorous therapy and some big changes to my physical environment, I finally feel like I’m no longer stuck in pure survival mode. Occasionally, the unpleasant things happened in life would make me question the progress of my recovery.

    The worst nightmare of therapy is not the unbearable pain, but the fear of not seeing the end.

    How is it related to my new crush?

    Yesterday, I met my new crush again. We just met each other. I enjoyed the chat so much that I didn’t try to control my mind. I didn’t dump my family trauma or my achievements on my new crush. When she shared her own confusions and uncertainties about life, I wasn’t put off by her “imperfections” at all.

    Most importantly, even though she’s just a crush right now, the uncertainty of where this might go didn’t make me anxious.

    If it doesn’t turn romantic, my new crush could still become a really valuable friend.

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  • Day 21:Things seem to be getting better?

    kauff kaufffffff kkkkkkafffffu! (coughing)

    Dummy’s challenge

    Latest Life Update:

    Received another phone call for interview from another company.

    I may need to see the doctor tomorrow. I am still coughing a lot.

    Although I am recovering, I still have to see my therapist. Realizing it may be a good opportunity to record some video clips and photos, I brought my camera with me.

    During my session, my therapist observed that my body posture became less grounded after reuniting with my family again. I told her that I had to shut down my senses to be sane in the household.

    My therapist told me that I have to move out as soon as possible. Both of us are very clear of the consequences if I go on living with my family. At last, she reminded me to create the calmly, worry-free mode I had in my mind.

    Just like the life in Laos🇱🇦.

    These are the photos I took before and after seeing my therapists. I don’t know why some photos look unclear 😭.

    This time, I experimented with a new angle – from bottom to top.
    The front face of the mini-bus.
    From the second floor.

    When I was heading towards the train station, I entered a garden and saw a middle-age man holding a camera. We were observing the old men who were playing Chinese Chess(XiangQi) against each other.

    The man told me he was from Belgium. He visited Sri Lanka and went to Hong Kong due to a flight delay. I was shocked when I heard him said,

    “Hong Kong is a place with amazing views. You see the street view!“

    The crowded commercial buildings? Or the clement forest? Undeniably, he was right. But it is not the full picture. When you have been facing the tall, lifeless buildings everyday, you won’t find them very pretty at all 😅.

    Not sure about which one is better.
    The tree in the corner of the city
    (Sighed)

    From these photos, you can see that I tried very hard to capture the view from the “bottom” angle. Some worked out, and most failed. It’s very difficult to get the full frame of the buildings. I think the causes are my techniques + equipments’ limitations.

    The most successful(?) attempt?
    ?????
    🤦‍♀️…
    The beam of life
    Try my best to find the best angle.
    Not the best, but not the worst.
    There are many beautiful paintings on the street.

    I then headed to a place to collect the tennis ball I left last Saturday. The host of the sharing session talked to me. She was very friendly and offered many tips on applying jobs for NGOs in Hong Kong. I am glad that I am able to meet people like her in my life. Her genuine sharing made me realize that I am not lagging behind.

    Free free to drop your comments or share your thoughts in the comment section. Looking forward to your feedback. 😃

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  • Day 20: A call for interview

    “Freedom”

    Freedom == Money?

    I am still coughing and sneezing all day long😷. Since I am still consuming anti-biotics after the wisdom teeth removal surgery, I decided not to take any pills. (I probably got a cold on last Saturday). But there is a piece of good news. I received the phone call from the HR of a large NGO that focus on mental health in Hong Kong. Hope I will get this offer💪.

    At night, I listened to a podcast recorded by a woman who had suffered from eating disorder in Hong Kong. Although I have never had eating disorder, I found her story very shocking and sad. It is hard to believe that some people assume that being a professional dancer is a stigma in the 21st century🤡.

    Time to rest😪.

    (kaff…kaffkaff… kaff…kaff.kaff.kafff.kafff.kaakakffff)

  • Day 14: Removing my wisdom teeth and current statues

    It was less terrifying than I thought.

    Will use it after 24 hours

    Finally, I went to the hospital to get rid of those annoying little things in my mouth. Before entering the operating room, I was scared to death. I kept imagining gruesome scenes of my teeth being pulled out in a bloody mess.

    Fortunately, once I was on the bed, I couldn’t feel any pain at all. But the dentist’s method was a bit rough. I could feel my jaw being tugged from left to right, and I wondered when it would all end.

    However, the outcome wasn’t too bad. My wounds stopped bleeding after about 45 minutes. Hope everything is alright.

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  • Day 12: Confusion

    Too many goals

    Even though the river was trying to soothe my mind, I still felt nervous.

    It was another ordinary day in life. No drama. No specific plans. The privilege of being unemployed while still living under my family’s roof has created new troubles for me. I keep thinking about my future, my possible paths, but nothing seems to work out in my imagined world. When can I stop overthinking?

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