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  • Day 7: A relaxing day and letting go the urge to change other people

    I didn’t know there were so many decorations on the streets in Hong Kong.

    Sai Ying Pun

    Apart from preparing for the interviews on Friday, I had plenty of time to explore the world around me.

    At first, I planned to hit the gym. But I changed my mind in the last minute.

    I just didn’t feel like going today.

    While I was walking down the street, an incident happened two days ago emerged in my mind.

    My mum is working in a company with a very toxic work culture. It was so toxic that she had difficulties to sleep and had a lot of health problems.

    Seeing how much she’s struggling, my father and I offered her many suggestions—including resigning from her current job, since we’re not short on money.

    Despite that, she refused to take any of them.

    I had one more idea: encouraging her to join me for my next counseling session to help reduce her fear

    She said she was too busy.

    I shared the outcome with my counselor. My counselor told me that I can’t change or influence my mum’s decision. Therefore, I have to learn how to accept the fact that my mum is not willing to stop her suffering.

    This is her choice. All I can do is respect her will.

    Latest update:

    • Photography practice
    • Finished the power point slides for a sharing session

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  • Day 6: A day filled with random thoughts

    Failed attempts

    Latest update:

    1. Received a call for arranging an interview
    2. Edited a reel as a volunteer
    3. hit the gym
    4. cooked a meal for myself

    I started my day by reading a book. It was quite inspiring. Until now, I found that as long as I could maintain a relatively healthy life cycle, my productivity for the day won’t be too low.

    What made me hesitate even more were the scenes of some Iranians smiling or celebrating when they learned their supreme leader had died. For some people, it might feel like a positive turning point; for others, it’s a complete disaster.

    For some people, it may be a positive turning point; for others, it’s a complete disaster.

    Another small thing happened today was my failure to solve the rubix cube. One year ago, when I flashed it to my university schoolmate, who was a rubix cube lover. She told me that I just had to treat it as a 3×3 cube.

    I tried to do so, but I still failed 🤡.

  • Day 5: Overcoming External Opinions

    Live for yourself, not others

    The souvenir from my relative who returned from the UK

    Just a short update on Day 5.

    Today’s event

    I met my relatives and had lunch with them. Unsurprisingly, the age gap between us made me found the conversation very boring and lifeless. All they talked about was body check and diet advice.

    However, a moment also made me realize that I am not confident enough.

    When one of them asked if I would get a master’s degree, I said no. He then lower his voice and said,

    ” You are not good at studying, so it is of no use to pursue a master’s degree.”

    His words sounded unpleasant in my ears. I knew it was because I had grown up in a very toxic family environment that never allowed me to focus on my studies.

    My family members struggle with severe mental illness. They often couldn’t control their temper and fought constantly. Their toxic behavior suffocated me emotionally, leaving me drained and unable to concentrate.

    (Since I was living in a chaotic household, I would say that if I care about my health and well-being, I can guarantee that I wouldn’t be able to get my degree.)

    Despite that, I didn’t fight back or tried to convince him. I understood that it was meaningless to explain to others the difficulties you are facing in life.

    I felt like other people didn’t understand my situation, but sometimes you can’t expect everyone will know your backstory. This is a topic I have to work on –

    How not to be affected by other people.

    I believe that one day I can tackle this issue and live freely.

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  • Day 4: Nothing happened

    Since today is Sunday, nothing unusual happened. I just collected my clothes and returned to my home. Apart from losing weight and preparing for moving out, I decided to learn more about organization’s structure and psychology to enhance my chance of achieving career success.

    In the future, I will write down my discoveries on this website as well. Maybe the same rule is not applicable to another place in the world.

    (This post is to avoid me breaking the cycle. I need to post something everyday)

  • Day 3: The cost behind the free lunch

    Should I call ghost busters to this place?

    Maybe yes.

    I had never imagined that I would leave a hotel without worrying about wasting money.

    Although I accidentally got the hotel room, I soon realized why the person in charge would dare spare me with a 7-day free hotel. To be honest, staying at this hotel gives me goosebumps.

    How it started?

    Four days ago, I was preparing the teaching materials for a Philippines girl who came to Hong Kong to learn Cantonese. Unfortunately, the agent forgot to prepare the documents for the girl, leaving her being trapped in the Philippines airport.

    The agent immediately asked for cancellation for the hotel. However, the hotel rejected his request. Running out of solution, he asked me to use the quota. That was how I got the 7-day free hotel room.

    Why I left?

    Three days in this hotel, I had already realized the girl may be lucky enough to stay in Philippine. This is one of the worst hotels I have visited in my life. There was a strange smell in the air, and strange things were happening all the time.💀

    For example, it took me more than 30 trials to open the door of the hotel room, and the lift couldn’t be used once I entered it.

    My instinct kept reminding me to leave this place.

    Ending

    When I told the receptionist that I wanted to check out today, he was a bit shocked.

    “But your booking said you will move out on 3 March. You are leaving today…”

    I don’t care since I trust my gut feelings. Also, this is not paid by myself. SO it is not a stupid decision to leave this place. 🥶

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  • Day two: Mental preparation

    Everything stems from your thought.

    Today I went to visit a temple in the diamond hill.

    Even though I’m living in a hotel and enjoying the freedom alone, I don’t like its environment, so I left and visited a temple.

    Why visit a temple

    A few days ago, when I mentioned my confusion to my counselor, she suggested me talking to the volunteer in the temple.

    “Buddhism is not the same as Buddhism studies. Chat with the volunteer and you will have some new insight on life.”

    A few days later, I visited the temple and met the volunteers.

    The place was as peaceful as usual. Pool, stones, trees and flowers were everywhere. Occasionally you would see a stone board with words like “fragrance mountain⛰”. Surprisingly, there were a lot of foreign visitors around today.

    When I reached the inner temple, I finally saw the volunteers that provide support for the temple’s operation. There was a table that placed a load of books for visitors. She told me all of them were free.

    “Take one if you want. This is “The Sutra of the Past Vows of Earth Store Bodhisattva“, have you ever read it?”

    “No, but I had read The Sutra On The Original Vows And Merits Of The Medicine Master Lapis Lazuli Light Tathagata. It is very interesting.”

    Then we started talking about Buddhism’s effect on our mind. At the same time, she kept saying how Buddhism improved her mind and living quality. She kept encouraging me to learn more about Buddhism to improve my life.

    The miracles in Life

    Therefore, she shared some stories with me.

    “One of our volunteers is very lucky. She retired in her mid-30s. She said she is bored of working for money, so her elder brother decided to pay for her living fee. And she works as a volunteer in this temple. What a peaceful life.”

    I was speechless.

    “Only people with high level of “practice” can be devoid of the stress and pressure of work.”

    That seems to make sense? It seems like if someone has truly mastered the lessons life offers through practice, they no longer need the ‘classroom’ of stressful work—so the world doesn’t force it on them.

    …

    Latest Updates

    When I returned to my home, I received a call on interview arrangement. Let’s see if I can get the offer!

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  • An Ambitious Experiment: Moving out in Hong Kong

    There is no one-man fits all solution or life path.

    Panasonic GH5 P(Programe AE) mode, outside of the free hotel room I got

    I have a new goal: Moving out before the end of 2026.

    The story behind

    Soon after returning to Hong Kong from Lao PDR, I realized that I couldn’t endure the stress and tension in my family anymore. Compared to the freedom I had living in a foreign country, I suddenly felt trapped at home. I don’t even have my own bedroom or any real personal space. Deep down, I know very clearly: if I keep living like this with my family, I’ll go crazy.

    That’s why, despite all the real-world challenges staring me in the face, I’ve decided to move out before the end of 2026.

    Challenges:

    It can be a daunting challenge due to the expensive living cost in Hong Kong. But there are two ways to view it.

    There is a famous saying in our culture:

    “If a problem can be solved by money, it is not a problem.”

    In fact, it is true. If I have enough money, I can move out at any moment, or even hiring professional delivery people to bring my stuff to my new home. But what’s the problem?

    I am just a fresh graduate with 6 months of experience at a UN agency, a loads of unrelated working experiences/internship, and a translation and language studies degree that is going to be useless in this AI-driven era.

    And of course, I don’t have a pair of supportive parents.

    Meanwhile, the job market is stagnating. The number of job openings are cutting back, and people rarely resign from their jobs. Basically, getting a job is difficult as well.

    (Until this moment, I am still jobless 😅. But I have already foreseen myself living alone in a comfy house in Hong Kong. Yeah~)

    Every Cloud has a silver lining

    The external environment make things look gloomy and hopeless. However, since I have already known my strength and weaknesses, it will make things easier.

    I may have potential to become a good short video/documentary videographer. And I have just joined a sports coach training program for game sports. At the same time, I am trying to see if I can use my writing skills to get more job opportunities.

    Even if none of these turn into my “ideal” career right away, I’m ready to take whatever job comes to make sure I can save enough money to move out.

    What will happen?

    Starting today (February 26, 2026), I’ll post every day, sharing real progress, discoveries, failures, and breakthroughs. Job hunt updates, side-hustle experiments, money saved (or not), mindset shifts, and rental scouting tips in Hong Kong.

    If you’re reading this post and find it relatable, please leave a comment.😁

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  • Why I didn’t spill the beans? The myth behind cheating

    This is my personal reflection—no judgment on others’ choices

    Cheating is either nonexistent or everywhere—there’s no in-between.

    by unknown

    Cheating is like pushing down a domino.

    Growing up in a traditional Hong Kong family, no one had ever taught me what was “Cheating”. I learned this term from the newspaper, local soap drama, and stories told by the adults.

    Since I was in surrounded by adults who emphasized the importance of morality, long ago I had been educated that “cheating” was an unforgivable sin.

    Whenever my mum saw the characters in the soap drama cheating on his or her partners, she would say,

    “OMG! They are cheating. He is a bad guy!”

    And it explained why my attitude towards cheaters are quite negative.

    Confusion in disguise

    Despite I had never approved this behavior, a question had lingered in my mind for a long time:

    Why won’t the cheater’s friend or family members inform their partners the truth? Why?

    When I was reading the news or stories, I saw people was worrying that destroying their relationship with their friends, or it can fire back.

    I was very naive 👧🏻. So I thought,

    “In the future, if I know anyone cheated on his or her partner, I must tell that person the truth. It’s so easy. Just spill the beans and everything will be fine.”

    The first moment of change

    After graduating from my secondary school, I entered a university where most students were relatively innocent and simple-minded. Most students don’t care about future, money or frame.

    They love playing mobile and computer games only. And I rarely heard about anyone cheating or having a drama over relationships.

    Things changed until I met my former friend, who was pursuing her second degree.

    The victim of victim

    On one occasion she complained about being mistreated by her boyfriend. Then she said,

    “Actually, I have feelings towards my classmate. He is a hot dude. Compared with my boyfriend, he is taller and knows how to flirt with girls. But he is a playboy.”

    I was silent at the moment. But I was overwhelmed with a mixed feelings. As a woman, I had a positive attitude towards fellow women. I thought every woman will be loyal to their partner like what I saw in the past.

    Before that, she told me that her boyfriend pay for her rent and helped her to do the housework. I couldn’t believe that she would betray her boyfriend. Although the dynamic of their relationship was very unhealthy, cheating was not an excuse.

    Ironically, although I found her behavior disappointing, I didn’t become the justice warrior I yearned for when I was young. Even when I encountered the same incident afterwards, I found myself have become the person in the “not my backyard” meme.

    The rational behind my impassiveness

    Sometimes I reflect on the rationale behind my action, and I concluded three reasons.

    1. Fear of trouble/backlash
    2. Disinterest in their partners
    3. Risk to own relationships/reputation

    Reason one is very simple. If I tell him or her the truth, it could get me into trouble very easily. Even though that person is my friend, I can’t predict the consequences. Life is easy during good times. Yet, if it is related to personal interest, that’s a different story.

    For number 2, it is more like a personal preference. I don’t have enough stamina to deal with my daily tasks already, why would I care about my friend’s partners? They are their partners, not mine.

    This is the most selfish reason. It started with human nature. Even if I successfully reported the incident to the victim, they may think I am lying. If they don’t believe in it, they can become mad and you and your reputation may get affected.

    Exceptional case

    Unless the victim is my friend and he or she is going to marry the cheater(s).

    Typing this blog post makes me realize how rational and practical I am. It also make me realize that being a good person is very difficult in the reality. Having the will to save other people is good, but it is an art that requires wisdom and understanding towards human nature.

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